Book Review: She Comes First – Emily Nagoski, PhD



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In this first of our “favorite things” series we offer a review of a book we can’t recommend enough! In  Come As You Are Emily Nagoski, Ph.D masterfully blends the latest science and research around sex — specifically female sexuality — with easily relatable metaphors and stories. The theme of the book is something we all want to hear: You are normal. Just as you are. You are not broken or wrong or a failure at sex. You just might need to learn a bit more about your body, how it works, and the kind of context that will allow you the freedom to lean into sex instead of away.

And men, if you want to better understand how a woman’s brain, heart and body work when it comes to sex, this is a great read for you, too. In fact, when we recommend this book, we almost always encourage both partners to read it in order to have the same understanding and verbage she uses.

This book has a few assessments, stories from actual people, practical information, and even a chapter summary if one of you doesn’t necessarily want to read the whole chapter but still wants to participate. It’s a great book for those just entering a sexual relationship for the first time as well as those in a mature relationship. When it comes to sex and relationships, there’s always more to learn and ways to improve and this book would be a great one to add to anyone’s library.